On life, loneliness, and privacy fences

90HI don’t know when it happened, or even how it happened, but at some point, we started doing life wrong.

I say we because I’m just as guilty of it as you are.

Growing up, I remember spending hours upon hours on my back porch sitting around talking. Sometimes it would only be my parents there with me. Other times someone would stop by for two seconds and end up staying two hours. We had unplanned cookouts with neighbors that started when they were sitting on their back porch while we were sitting on ours. We figured it’d be more fun if we combined porches.

Maybe it was the difference in a small town and the suburbs, but whatever it was, it was definitely better. Continue reading

Three simple ways to change the world

change the worldOver the weekend I spoke to a group of about 50 twenty-something’s and their leaders. In the opening talk on Friday night, I went on an unplanned rabbit trail about being obsessed with changing the world. It was a Biblical message mixed with motivational speech and a little bit desperate pleading for others to join me.

It’s true: I’m obsessed with changing the world.

It’s also true that I can’t do it without you.

With that said, here are three simple ways for you to begin changing the world.  Continue reading

What if you aren’t supposed to be good enough?

good enoughWhat if we aren’t supposed to be good enough?

What if we aren’t supposed to know what we’re doing?

What if the entire point of life isn’t to be smart enough or talented enough, but simply willing to try?

What if failure is okay?

What if failure is even encouraged?

What if you couldn’t fail?

What if failing only meant not trying?

What if it’s not about feeling safe?

What if it’s about being scared to death to try but even more scared not to? Continue reading

Four ways to chase your calling without getting fired from your day job

dont get firedOn Tuesday, I published a post talking about why you should be living for more than your day job. It’s my belief that while some of us are meant to chase a crazy dream and do it full time, most of us have a diverse set of gifts that could never be put into one sole job description.

You’re a video guy who loves playing music and investing in others.

You’re a mom with a marketing degree who enjoys baking for others.

You’re a student majoring in business but also have a passion for people around the world.

Whatever it is, your calling – the unique wiring that only you have – can’t fit into a normal day job.

While it’s important to chase after all the things God has called you to do, it’s even more important to do it the right way. You can’t neglect your day job in pursuit of your dreams.

Well, unless you don’t enjoy eating, having a place to live, and semi-affordable health insurance. Continue reading

Why you should be living for more than your day job

day jobOne of my biggest influences is a guy named Jon Acuff. Jon (I can call him Jon because I met him once for twelve seconds and he’s tweeted to me. We’re BFFs now.) is a writer, speaker, and a lot of other things. His claim to fame was a little blog I discovered in college called Stuff Christians Like. A guy was making fun of Christian culture while I was in school at the Christian culture capital of the world? Yeah. I’ll read that.

The crazy thing about SCL was that it was amazingly popular while Jon still worked a desk job. Once the blog started taking off, Jon started getting invited to speak at churches and small events. He tells stories of leaving work on Friday afternoon, flying to a weekend speaking engagement, then flying home only to go back to work on Monday morning.

Eventually Jon was able to leave his boring desk job and chase his dream job. Since then he’s written four books in four years, quit his dream job to chase his real dream, and become one of the most popular speakers in the country.

One of Jon’s first books was titled, “Quitter: Closing The Gap Between Your Day Job & Your Dream Job.” In the book, Jon talks about how to go after your dream job without quitting your day job right away. The end goal, however, is that one day you do quit your desk job for your dream job, but only after a time of preparing and planning.

No offense to Jon, but I’m beginning to wonder if you even need to quit in the first place? Continue reading

Why you should take a walk in the middle of the road

SONY DSCI have a 2.5 year old puppy. I purposefully don’t say 2.5 year old dog because she’s a lab and she’s still fully puppy. She enjoys eating any paper she can get her mouth on, TV remotes, and sticks.

And she can sometimes be a terrorist.

Recently she’s started doing this thing where she wakes up at two in the morning and growls at us. She doesn’t bark, just growls. It’s as annoying as it sounds.

To combat her growling, I’ve started trying to wear her out by walking her around the neighborhood right before going to bed. With it getting darker earlier, these walks have started being after dark.

As we walk around the neighborhood, I’ve found myself walking in the middle of the road. I don’t know if I started doing that because I was bored or because I was told not to as a kid, but the middle of the road has become my go to path. Continue reading

An Open Letter to Liberty Students – a guest post on LibertyFlamesNation.com

liberty studentsTo the Liberty students who go to football games,

I made my annual trip back to the mountain last weekend for homecoming. My spot on the front row of the upper deck was comfortable and a great view, but I couldn’t help but miss that familiar place in the front row of the student section right on the 50 yard line. For three years, that spot was my spot. I could tell you stories of pranks we pulled, chants we did, and all the ways we made Williams Stadium a nightmare for other teams to play in.

Your shear number is impressive. Even more impressive is your creativity. We wore t-shirts and said funny things. You are painting up as entire dorms, going over the top with the costumes, and thinking through things in ways that we never even considered.

If it’s okay with you, I’d like to pass along one suggestion. I don’t want to be that guy who graduated and acts like things were so much better when he was in school. That’s not my intention at all. My hope is that you guys become the best student section in FCS football and make The Bill into a place that isn’t just noticed, but is feared.

Click here to read the full letter on LibertyFlamesNation.com.