An open letter to anyone who’s ever seen a raunchy picture on the internet


Dear People of the Internet,

I write to you today because of an increasing epidemic on social media. Let me first explain the situation:

Yesterday I was sitting at the vet scrolling through Facebook as I waited on the vet to come in the room. There in my newsfeed, I saw a picture. It was two pretty girls in their 20s standing together. They were a little dolled up but nothing too fancy. By all accounts, it was a nice picture.

I continued scrolling and saw a picture from the same pretty 20-something. This picture was much different than the first. This one was a selfie with her Upper Lady Parts (ULP) almost fully exposed and pushed up to her chin.

Same girl in both pictures.

The normal picture had 10 likes.

The ULP picture had 56.

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What the All About That Bass chick reminded me about dating, relationships, and sex.

meghan-trainor-title-ep-coverI’m just going to come right out with it: I have a slight musical obsession with Meghan Trainor. You may only know her from the All About That Bass song. I was introduced to her through a different song called “Title.” I was sitting at my desk with a random playlist going on Spotify when I heard the line, “Baby, don’t call me your friend. If I hear that word again you might never get a chance to see me naked in your bed” sang over the happiest ukelele based song I’d ever heard in my life. And there was rhythmic clapping.

Color me intrigued.

I restarted the song and played it through. Then I went and found her four song EP and listened to the whole thing. Multiple times. Here was a pop singer sampling 60’s songs, having key changes in the middle of a song, writing clever lyrics, and on top of all that, writing a song in 6/8.

Thus the obsession.

The more I listened to her, and the more I listened to Title, the more she reminded me a few things about dating, marriage, and sex. Continue reading

I’m speaking at a retreat and think you should come

Voices screens flyerOn October 17-19, I get the privilege to speak at a retreat for college students and 20-somethings. It’ll be held on top of a gorgeous mountain at Eagle Rock Retreat Center outside of Maryville, TN. If you are in that age range, I’d love for you to be there. If you know someone in that age range, I’d love for you to share this post with them. Below is a small teaser/promo for what we’ll be looking at over the weekend. If you have any questions about any of it, feel free to leave a comment or e-mail me. You can find all of the details at

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What a post about a gay son’s journey and holiness taught me about the internet

IMG_2347.GIFOn Sunday night, I was laying in bed debating whether or not I wanted to write a post about the guy who spoke in church that morning. I’d gone back and forth all day on what to write, when to write, and if I should write. Since I couldn’t sleep, I figured I might as well try. After all, maybe it’d wear me out and I could sleep after.

I opened Evernote, started typing on my phone, and posted the blog.

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On Ray Rice and Marriage

bal-ray-rice-marries-janay-palmer-amid-assault-001I got married on April 28, 2012; or less than two and a half years ago. I’m by no means an expert on marriage, but it’s something I hold in high regard. For as long as I remember, even back to high school, marriage was something I looked forward to. I watched my parents and their marriage. I watched my grandparents. I watched my friends’ parents. I even watched TV marriages.

If it was about marriage, I wanted to know about it.

Within a couple months of dating Nicole, we started talking about marriage. We knew we weren’t ready for it, but we both had an end goal of marriage. We didn’t put pressure on our relationship to force things, but we also didn’t want to avoid the topic. It was something we valued so it became something we talked about. Continue reading

The story of why you’re more creative than you realize

dove-real-beauty-sketches-2One of the things that fascinates me more than anything is the difference in how people view themselves versus how other people view them. The Dove Real Beauty sketches captivated me because they showed tangible examples of how most of us see ourselves in much more of a negative light than others do. In case you can’t click the link or haven’t seen the sketches, the idea behind them is a former FBI sketch artist asked women (that he couldn’t see) to describe different features of their face. He asked about their chins, their cheeks, their hair. Then, after sketching their description, he would ask someone else to describe the first person. At the end of the video, he showed the original person both sketches. The reactions were all the same.

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